#8 To the One Solving the Problems

In every marriage, there’s often one person who pulls away—and one who leans in. Last episode, we talked about what’s going on for the withdrawer. Today, we’re talking to the other side: the one who keeps bringing it up, trying to talk it through, trying to reconnect—but nothing seems to work. If that’s you, this episode is for you. Brett breaks down: Why pursuers often feel like the “healthy one” in the relationship How pursuing becomes a protective move—just like withdrawing What’s really driving that urgency to talk and “make it better” How both partners are usually stuck in their protective emotion (the F in the conflict cycle) How to slow down, uncover your vulnerable emotion, and invite your spouse into clarity—not pressure You don’t need to hold back or give up—but you do need a new way to pursue. Mentioned in this episode: 🎥 Free Class — The #1 Reason Marriages Struggle (and How to Fix It) 👉 www.marriageessentials.com/workshop