Fixing The Fearful Avoidant Attachment - A Man's Guide

Alright team, this is one of the biggest guides yet! There were a TON of requests to cover this one, so I happily obliged. This attachment style is also called "disorganized attachment", and I've worked with a ton of men who have it. So let's dig in on what fearful-avoidant attachment is, how it affects relationships, and how to move back towards something more secure, authentic, and thriving with easy, deliberate steps. (00:00:00) - Intro and defining fearful-avoidant attachment, and how conflicting it can feel (00:08:20) - Where this attachment style starts, and what makes it different from anxious and avoidant (00:13:50) - What does fearful-avoidant look like in a relationship? (00:16:19) - What builds a fearful-avoidant style? Neglect and/or inconsistency (00:24:22) - One of the most important (and unspoken) needs of a child (00:29:19) - Parentification, one of the most common causes of fearful-avoidant attachment (00:32:35) - Exposure to heightened levels of conflict (00:38:24) - On being disappointed by others, protection from rejection, and concentration (00:43:10) - So what do we do? Two BIG steps (00:46:58) - On how to self-regulate/self-soothe, and starting with the breath (00:52:02) - Find someone to help you work with your hypervigilance (00:55:00) - Develop consistent connection with your partner (or with friends). Here’s how (00:58:56) - Build trust. Slowly. Over time (01:01:53) - Set boundaries with the fear-based thoughts in your head *** My book, Men's Work: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Stay Connected Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ManTalks.ca Website: https://mantalks.com Subscribe to the podcast here: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/7pERITPtcg832IOwgZCF6x Apple Podcasts - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mantalks-podcast/id1015078747?mt=2 #MensWork #adviceformen #carljung