Naked, My Love

Source: https://www.podbean.com/eau/pb-9akz7-1ac686b We complicate relationships because we deny simplicity or simple ways of loving or - maybe - the simple solutions to complex things.   Every relationship starts with a clean slate. Pure, unencumbered. Then it gets layered. One incident at a time, one feeling expressed at a time, and often (more vitally), one feeling unexpressed at a time.   And the grooves get cut and get deeper, sharper, as the unresolved creates acid and bile and sarcasm and anger. Love doesn't disappear, it gets buried deeper and deeper into crevasses which can't be seen, brought out when needed, indeed, often forgotten but embedded as bitter nature.   The tragedy is not that it happenes. We are humans. We have mind-fades, we are fools, we have unreasonable expectations. That is our charm and our curse. We never see a good thing for what it is, we take what is good for granted, we mess up, big time. Unfortunately realization is slow, redemption is complex. Until it is not.   We stop making statements and start asking questions. We stop having expectations, and see the beauty of what exists. We stop comparing and fall in love again with what we had fallen in love with in the first place.   And we allow each other to grow into our inner beauty - by making it easy and pellucid and non-judgemental. We begin by believing that the worst he does is not personal. We begin by realizing that you are not the center of his very existence, and neither is he of yours. You are moon and the Venus - maybe Neptune also - but definitely not the solar system. Because we have needs beyond each other  - she could have a travel best friend, he could have a coffee best friend, another who he loves gossiping with, another with whom he discusses office politics.   That's why we are in this world, that's why we have the bounty of so many people in our lives. They all add something and make us complete and fulfilled and beautiful.   Neither of us has the right to deny that freedom to the other.   If you liked this poem, consider listening to these other poems on relationships and how we navigate them -  The Space Between Our Words The Ironies of Love Marriage Made Me a Philosopher Subscribe to my newsletter 'The Uncuts' Follow me on Instagram at @sunilgivesup. Get in touch with me on [email protected]   The details of the music used in this episode are as follows - This world instrumental by Sascha Ende Link: https://filmmusic.io/en/song/this-world-instrumental Licence:  https://filmmusic.io/standard-license