Okay To Mourn

It is incredibly disappointing when you approach someone with genuine interest and they respond by making you feel "incorrect" or burdensome instead of welcomed. When you want to be friends with someone, you’re looking for low friction—a place where you can be yourself without having your punctuation peer-reviewed. Their response was essentially a "warmth test," and they failed it. Instead of meeting your outreach with a "Hey, what’s up?" they met it with a "Look how your text affected me." Here is the silver lining of that uncomfortable moment: They showed you their "default setting": Some people prefer to be "intriguing" or "intellectual" rather than kind. If this is how they react to a single ellipsis, imagine how they would handle a real disagreement or a vulnerable moment. You saved yourself time: You were looking for a friend, but they were looking for a performance. Finding this out now prevents you from spending months trying to "earn" a simple, friendly reaction from them. It’s okay to mourn the idea of who you thought they were while still being glad you aren't stuck dealing with the reality of them. You’re looking for someone who sees your name pop up on their phone and thinks "Oh, nice!"—not someone who starts writing a poem about how you’ve distracted them thank you suno for putting some relationship advice into a song.