Adaptable | Behavior Explained

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I'm Kelly O'Horo, Attachment based EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant, and EMDR Trainer. I'm a mom of 5, Nonna of 5, wife, and a healer. I have the honor of s...

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Being needed can become an addiction that slowly burns you out

This is just who I am’ can become an excuse to avoid growth

Sometimes avoiding conflict doesn’t protect you, it slowly harms you.

You don’t have to be perfect to grow!

Choosing Your Hard with Victoria Brandt, LPC

The behaviors that hurt our relationships are often the same behaviors that once helped us survive

The Four Horsemen aren’t the problem… the lack of repair is.

Conflict doesn’t destroy relationships… hopelessness does

It’s Not the Fight That Destroys Relationships…

From Destructive Patterns to Secure Connection

Frustration vs. Contempt Healing Relationship Damage

Contempt in Relationships The Silent Killer of Love

If you’ve ever felt yourself starting to feel “above” your partner in conflict, this is for you

Contempt When Disrespect Replaces Safety

What if your defensiveness is blocking the connection you want

The more defensive you are, the longer repair takes

Stop being defensive, this is what’s actually happening!

If you get defensive fast, this is why.

Defensiveness When Protection Blocks Connection

Criticism isn’t pushing your partner closer, it’s pushing them away!

Criticism is ruining your relationship and you might not even realize it

Criticism isn’t about cruelty… it’s about longing!

Why do some conversations connect and others instantly turn into conflict

Why does someone you love go quiet and why does it hurt so much

Criticism When Needs Turn Into Attacks

Why Silence Can Feel Safer Than Speaking Up

Why does someone you love go quiet and what it really means

Stonewalling When Silence Becomes The Wall

No matter how much we plan, prepare, or expect… life happens

“Take my own advice …about once a day.” 😅